How We Tease. Types of Teasing
HOW do we tease?
What TYPES of teasing do we see?
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HOW we tease and pick on others happens in different ways with different intents and motives.
Kids tease and bully differently than how we tease as adults. Kids can often be very cruel, quite direct, and mean on purpose. Red heads
often are the victims because they look different or stand out.
Friendly teasing can be positive. It can be playful, humorous, exercise our wits, and even improve relationships when done in love.
We can have a quick connection with someone. It can be a flirting way of communication. It sometimes is common in families and couples to convey affection.
BUT how we tease can also quickly turn into something ugly if a line is crossed. There is a fine line between playful teasing and hurtful teasing. A fun friendly exchange can quickly turn into a painful humiliating competition.
Teasing can reject someone with a purpose to exclude them from others or activities. It can make someone into a scapegoat.
Even healthy, playful, sexual flirting can turn into sexual harassment that is unwelcome and not funny.
Our kids need to be taught to respect the other gender and respectful and sensitive to other's feelings. Children should be taught to respect others -- to treat others how they want to be treated. * * * * * * *TEASING and BULLYING CAN BE:
- try to hurt people by hitting, kicking, pushing
- make someone do things they don’t want to do
- grab or steal a kid’s stuff or belongings, clothing
- acts of physical aggression
- deliberately in their personal space, confront face-to-face
- raising of eyebrows
- shaking of the head
- snort or smirk
- turning away or walking away
- rolling of eyes
- making a face
- exclude someone from a group intentionally
- pointing at them
-- VERBAL (most common)
- name-calling and put-downs
- hurtful nicknames
- ridicule and make fun of
- say mean things about someone
- threaten or scare them
- tell them they can’t be part of a group or activity
- torment and harass with words
- laughing and mocking
- gossip or tell lies about them
|And now there's....CYBERBULLYING...|
Cyberbullying occurs when a child is embarrassed, harassed, humiliated, threatened or tormented by another child using the Internet, cell phones, or other interactive or digital technology. It's just as concerning as bullying, as this has resulted in children hurting or killing other kids or even committing suicide! Cyberbulling occurs when minors are on both sides of bullying or if the bullying was at least instigated by a minor against another minor.
A child can be victimized by:
- getting repeated emails or instant text messages
- someone posting real or doctored images online
- sharing of intimate information against someone's will
- encouraging other children to share in the bullying
- others breaking into email or social network accounts (like Facebook)
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